because while my mother is alive, she will not be allowed within a hundred miles of a baby of mine, and that's not fair, either It's seriously unfair. One thing that's really been great about LJ (and the greatness here is going to sound relative) is that I've met so many other people who have either lost their parents at an early age or have painful relationships with them. While it's not fair for any of us, there's strength in numbers, you know? (And I'll be right there for your posts when the day comes.)